We live in a time of faux perfection. Social media makes it so easy to present a perfect life. Photoshop and filters make it possible for everyone to “have” their dream body and radiant skin. So it’s not surprising that more and more people are beginning to feel unfulfilled with their life. There’s a saying that goes, “Don’t compare your behind the scenes moments to everyone else’s highlight reel,” and that is exactly correct. No one’s life is as great as their Instagram account.
However, we all know that! We all know that models in magazines don’t look the same in person. We know that fashion bloggers aren’t paying for their expensive wardrobes and that mommy bloggers’ kids cry and embarrass them just like everyone else’s. Unfortunately, that knowledge doesn’t stop us from wishing that we could be as effortlessly sexy as a Victoria’s Secret model or as put together as our favorite YouTuber. We’ve grown accustom to the fakery and have convinced ourselves that maybe they’re not perfect, but they are still better than us, in some way or another.
It would be easy to write a blog post telling everyone to just STOP! To stop looking up to images that don’t exist. To stop wasting your time wishing you could travel as much as this girl or be as happy as this family. But the truth is, having desires and goals is good. And if some DIY Mommy Blogger convinces you to play with your kids more, then that’s great. If an image in a magazine gives you the motivation to hit the gym twice as hard, then more power to you.
Due to the increase in curated lives and staged happiness, the message that perfection isn’t attainable is being stressed more than ever. But perfection is real. You can have the perfect life… for you. The perfect body… for you. Perfection is in the eye of the beholder.
So the next time you see someone with something that you wish you had, don’t get jealous. Get inspired. Get inspired to achieve your own goals. Get inspired to create a life that you love and that is perfect for you. Jealousy is a useless emotion that will never help you to move forward. We need to remove that word from our vocabulary and that thought from our minds and instead find the proper and useful replacement.
Whenever you feel yourself becoming jealous try to replace the word jealous with one of these 5 phrases instead and take charge of your life!
5 Things to Say Instead of Jealous
1) INSPIRED BY
Turn your jealousy into inspiration. Allow the success of others to inspire you to succeed. Next time you find yourself feeling jealous, make a conscience effort to identify the source of the jealousy. Then allow that to inspire you to improve your own life.
2) MOTIVATED TO
Most great things in life don’t just happen. If you see something that you want, then don’t become jealous that someone else has it, become motivated to go after your goals.
3) APPRECIATIVE THAT
Sometimes we can allow our jealously to turn into greed and ungratefulness. Sure we would all love to be millionaires who live in mansions and travel the world or supermodels who can eat whatever they want and never gain a pound. Unfortunately, that is not our reality, but that is okay, because if we examine our own lives, we will realize that we live great lives as well. Instead of being jealous because of what you don’t have, take a moment to be appreciative of what you do have.
4) HAPPY FOR
It is important to remember that there is room for everyone to be happy and successful. Just because others are succeeding doesn’t mean that you are failing. Remembering that simple fact can allow you to be happy for others. Instead of being jealous, be congratulatory. Take note of the hard work and effort that others are putting into reaching their goals. Be happy for your family and friends when they are successful.
5) DETERMINED TO ACHIEVE
After inspiration and motivation comes determination. Most dreams and goals will require hard work and consistency. Let the success and/ or good fortunes of others spark a flame of determination within you and keep going until you reach your goal.