Most kids are naturally extroverted. They want to constantly be around others and have very little need for alone time. If you are an introvert, parenting small children (and all of the duties that come with it) can often feel like your worst nightmare come true. You may even begin to feel bad about all of the things you simply can’t do for your child. Depending on how much of an introvert you are, simple tasks such as play dates and Birthday parties can feel overwhelming and you may need to limit the amount you attend. Parenting when you are an introvert is definitely challenging. However, there are major pros too! Here are my top 5:
1) I don’t suffer from loneliness
Read any comment section of any article about being a stay at home mom and moms will begin to explain how the hardest part is the loneliness. Some will complain about how they haven’t talked to another adult besides their spouse in weeks. Others might even say that they love going to the store just to have a conversation with the checkout clerk. As an introvert, I can’t relate. The lack of daily adult interaction is a huge bonus for me. In fact, when I go to the grocery store I try to avoid eye contact just so no one is under the impression that I want/need to have a friendly adult conversation.
2) You watch your kids more closely
At parks and play dates, most moms seem to just want to catch up with the other moms. So they tend to miss when little Jimmy pushed 3 kids down or that little Susie almost ran into the street. I’m not judging. I think Moms should have a moment to relax and hang out with their friends. But because I’m not that interested in chatting with other Moms, I’m usually looking for an out when I’m having a conversation with other moms, and my kids provide the perfect exit. “Oh you want to talk about what brand diapers are the best? Sorry my kid is going the wrong way up the slide, be right back.”
3) You understand that your working spouse needs to unwind
A lot of times stay at home parents can’t wait for their spouse to arrive home so they can catch up and hear all the office drama or just have a conversation with someone who isn’t begging for snacks. However, most people, introverts or not, need a moment to unwind after working a full day. As an introvert I totally get that and am happy to give my husband his space.
4) I can fake enthusiasm
Kids aren’t all that interesting. But for me, most adults aren’t all that interesting either. Because I spend the majority of my life pretending to be interested in what the other people are saying, I am a natural when it comes to talking to kids. My best skill is probably being able to insert the right laugh or ‘no way’ at the perfect time, without having any idea what we are talking about.
5) I don’t feel guilty about alone time
So many parents complain about never being without their kids. Once kids outgrow naps, many parents just feel guilty taking a break from them. Well, not this Mama. I know that I need time to myself. I’m a better mom and just an overall more pleasant human being when I take a moment to de-stress and recharge. So naps and quiet time are a must at our house. I honestly can’t even fathom feeling guilty about it because I know what it would do to me and my children mentally if I didn’t take care of myself.